There are many ways in which we can be strong and look after our own well being and health, even when outside influences try to break through our defences.
A good friend of mine just posted a comment in my last post asking if there was any way she could resist being easily influenced by other people's strength, or hypnotic (although I'd guess more accurately suggestive) techniques.
My first thoughts were that perhaps this post might be better placed on my hypnosis website as it would be more on-topic for that site.
But on reflection, it could just as easily fit in with the alternative lifestyle promoted by me on this site. I'll tell you why.
All Kinds of People
There are all kinds of people in this world, as we well know. It's what makes us human beings so unique in the animal kingdom that inhabits this Earth of ours.
There are all kinds of personalities, with all kinds of abilities, different desires, a multitude of thoughts, needs, goals etc.
Of these, psychologists have pigeon-holed several personality types that tend to fit pretty well with most people, although it is actually quite rare for anyone to fit exactly into any one category. We tend to be predominantly one personality type or another, while exhibiting some lesser traits of other types.
If that's all too confusing, then I'll clarify with an example.
Take what is commonly known as an extrovert character. They are often brash, outgoing, life and soul of the party types that are always optimistic and positive and live life to the full.
It is said that the extrovert character type displays a more happy-go-lucky outward appearance and tend to lead more exciting lifestyles.
However, most extrovert types also display other character traits some of the time, such as depressiveness (is that a word?), or lethargy, or even shyness which are qualities more in keeping with their polar opposites.
On the other hand, the introvert type is associated with shyness, quietness, head always in a book, negativity and safe.
The introvert character type is one who leads a quieter lifestyle, is more homely and takes on careers that are relatively safe.
Often, an introvert type will also "come out of their shell" from time to time and surprise their family and friends.
So there is no real absolute way of categorizing each person, as we really are all different to an extent!
So now that's explained, I have a foundation to attempt to answer the original question.
What Influences a Person?
Certain people are more susceptible to being influenced by the actions of others, just as some people have an uncommonly powerful ability to influence others.
Often, if we are of one character type or other, there is not a whole lot we can do to change the way we are.
But that's not to say we can't take what we are and make it better.
So if you are easily influenced by certain people, the simple answer is to keep away from those people. If that's not possible, then you can teach yourself to stand up to them without actually causing a personal confrontation.
This does require some mental training to achieve, but it is very possible.
In my work as a hypnotherapist, I have often been asked by people if I can help them to stop being intimidated by a certain person, for instance a domineering boss, or mentally harassing work colleague.
This I can do by using the power of suggestion to empower those people to have confidence in themselves and to see themselves as physically bigger than the other person.
There are several other techniques I use alongside that, but it would be too long to go into all that here and really would be more suited for my Hypnosis site!
Suffice it to say, you can use mental visualisation techniques while in a meditative or self-hypnotic state to see yourself as strong and immune to anyone else's influence and to see the other person as small and weak.
Another really great visualisation technique I learned about came from the old comedy show "Red Dwarf" where one of the characters was told that whenever he encountered someone who made him feel inadequate, he should imagine them sitting on the toilet with their pants round their ankles!
Works every time!